My wife has lost all interest in sex. We haven’t made love for three years – and she won’t get help | Life and style

My spouse and I are in our 50s and wholesome, though she suffers from anxiousness. Our intercourse life was once gratifying, however because the beginning of our daughter, who’s now a young person, it has progressively diminished. For the final three years it has been nonexistent. I nonetheless have a sexual urge for food however my spouse tells me she has misplaced all curiosity in intercourse. She has stated a number of instances that she is going to search assist from a therapist however by no means does and doesn’t appear motivated to take action. She appears very uncomfortable even speaking about intercourse, to the extent that I’ve grow to be cautious of bringing it up. Our sexless marriage appears to swimsuit her high quality – we are nice pals and revel in one another’s firm. Nevertheless, I really feel annoyed on the lack of debate about what occurred to our intercourse life and really feel resentful that one thing that was once a core a part of our relationship has simply disappeared. Ought to I simply settle for that we are going to now not have intercourse or ought to I persevere with attempting to get her to hunt therapy?

Persevere. The precise cause in your spouse’s lowered libido is unknown, and there are specific components that ought to be understood for each your sakes. Nervousness can definitely be a contributing aspect, as can despair, stress, hormonal imbalance, physique picture points, relationship components and sure medicines and medical issues. One crimson flag is your use of the phrases “nice pals”. Who you see your self to be within the context of your associate is essential; I’m certain it is extremely painful so that you can be a “good friend” fairly than a “lover”. Search assist, attempting to not allocate blame however fairly be her associate in partaking her in an effort to enhance the standard of life for each of you.

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