Why Is It So Hard For Me To Relinquish Control?

Right here’s one thing you’ve in all probability guessed about me if you happen to’ve been studying my weblog for any period of time. I’m a management freak. 😀 I’m not a crew participant. It’s not simple for me to belief folks to do issues for me. I’ve been this manner all my life. My mother tells me that one of many first full sentences I ever discovered to say as a really small youngster was, “Me do it me-self!” So I’ve at all times been fiercely impartial.

As I’ve labored on this home over the past almost-ten years, there have been issues that I’ve clearly needed to rent out as a result of there was no manner I may do them myself. I employed out the structural work after we transformed the storage into my studio. I imply, there’s no manner that I may have turned this…

…into this all on my own.

However I’m certain that these guys would inform you that I used to be at all times round, at all times hovering, at all times ensuring that issues had been going in accordance with plan. And issues definitely didn’t go off with no hitch. There have been some fairly vital frustrations with that contractor — miscommunications that might have simply been prevented and by no means ought to have occurred — that simply added to my dedication to by no means rent out work until I completely should as a result of I can’t belief folks to do issues appropriately. (I shared extra particulars about that right here.)

After which there was the carport. No manner may I’ve ever constructed that myself. It required pouring concrete, including enormous and really heavy structural beams, and so forth. That was a job greatest dealt with by a number of males. (I really want to get present footage of the carport!)

And I employed out all the foundational work (subfloor, drywall, electrical, rough-in plumbing, framing) within the visitor bed room, dwelling gymnasium, hallway, and grasp toilet.

I additionally employed out the set up of the brand new HardiPlank siding, portray the outside of the home, pouring the brand new entrance sidewalk, and I’m certain there are a couple of smaller issues I’m forgetting.

So if it’s one thing that I do know I’m simply not bodily able to doing, or one thing that requires a number of folks, or one thing that I’ve vowed by no means to do once more in my life (like putting in, taping, and mudding drywall), I’ll rent it out. I’ll accomplish that begrudgingly, after which I’ll hover and ask tons of questions because the work is being executed, however I’ll rent it out.

However I’ve at all times had such a tough time permitting myself to rent out work that I do know I can do myself. And it’s probably not a matter of not desirous to spend the cash. It’s only a matter of me being fiercely impartial and never trusting different folks to do the work as much as my requirements. I’ve by no means let anybody do any of the ending work on the inside of our home, as a result of I don’t belief anybody to try this.

The issue is that my fierce independence and management freak tendencies aren’t simply directed in direction of my DIY tasks and work on the home. However I additionally discover it very tough to relinquish management of issues that different folks can in all probability do a lot better than I can, like cleansing my home. And as y’all know, that received me into fairly a bind final week.

Whereas I used to be sick in mattress all week, watching helplessly as my home grew to become an increasing number of of a whole catastrophe space with every passing day, it by no means even as soon as occurred to me to rent somebody to assist me. That thought by no means even crossed my thoughts. That’s simply not how my mind is wired.

There was truly a time again in 2016 and 2017 once I did rent somebody to scrub our home, however that sort of fizzled, and I by no means thought to rent anybody else. For no less than six months now, Matt has been urging me to rent somebody to come back no less than as soon as each two weeks, if not each week, to scrub the home in order that I can deal with different issues, however I’ve simply been dragging my ft on that. It’s simply so onerous for me to relinquish management over issues that I do know I can do myself. Whyyyyyyy am I like that?!?!

Proper now, there are three issues that we rent out frequently. The primary is the garden mowing, and I’ve by no means thought twice about handing that over to another person. We now have an acre of land, and I’ve completely no want to mow it myself. We additionally rent out our pest management and HVAC upkeep, each of which occur on a quarterly foundation. These are the one issues we rent out proper now.

I go searching my home, and I see so many little tasks that I may and will rent out. The fake stone on the porch skirt. Why am I decided to try this myself? A handyman may get that executed in a day. Re-installing the shutter that fell throughout excessive winds throughout a thunderstorm. It’s been sitting there for a few yr whereas I inform myself that I’ll get to it as quickly as I can. Why am I so decided to try this myself? I may offer you a complete lengthy checklist of tasks like that that I may simply rent out, and but, I’ve such a tough time handing these over. Whyyyy???

Anyway, all of that to say…

Hello. My identify is Kristi, and I’m a management freak.

However I actually do need to get higher and be taught to belief different folks to do issues for me. I’m going to power myself by making some cellphone calls in the present day.

What house-related issues do you could have exterior assist with? Do you could have a handyman on velocity dial? Do you rent out your garden upkeep? Do you could have somebody clear your own home? I’m simply curious. Another management freaks like myself on the market?

Addicted 2 Adorning is the place I share my DIY and adorning journey as I rework and embellish the 1948 fixer higher that my husband, Matt, and I purchased in 2013. Matt has M.S. and is unable to do bodily work, so I do nearly all of the work on the home on my own. You may be taught extra about me right here.

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